Cahalan. We say it CaHAlan and they say CAhalan, but either way, it’s family. This weekend I took a trip to Ballingarry to meet my relatives on my mom’s side. It’s a long complicated list of people to connect our families, but when it comes down to it, I was staying with 3rd and 4th cousins. Mary and I had been exchanging e-mails all week and made a plan for me to bus to their home, called Southpark, for the weekend. I was picked up at the bus station and brought home for my first taste of a real Irish home. Friday night was mostly made up of tea, talking, dinner, more tea and more talking J It was great getting to know these people who were strangers only hours before. Mary and Morgan have 3 grown children, Tom, David, and Jessica. On Friday night, I met Tom and David (and his girlfriend Louise) as well as Mary and Morgan. I gave them a geography lesson of America while we tried to muddle through our ancestors. With a little help from the Green Family Book and my Aunt Marilyn, we think we’ve figured it out. After a lovely home cooked dinner, Morgan and I sat in amiable quiet while we read and watched the Latelate show (at 10 pm). It was a great start to a marvelous weekend.
Saturday morning, I met Tom’s 2 year old daughter Cora, who is a darling little girl with red curly hair. Unfortunately, she’s teething and a drama queen to top it off, so we had a bit of a tantrum, followed by her charming her way back into our good graces. Breakfast was a big family brunch, accompanied by tea (the ever present beverage) After, Morgan took me around the farm for rounds.
I had been told to bring my “wellies”, but I don’t have anything like rain boots. Luckily enough, a new friend of mine had her “Alaskan Sneakers”, which are heavy-duty rain boots, and lent them to me for the weekend. And good thing too, because those fields were really muddy! We made the rounds in a Jeep filled with feed. The first job Morgan gave me was to hop out and open the big gate so we could drive into the first field… the gate defeated me and Morgan had to help me figure it out. Not my greatest moment. After that, a pattern began. We’d climb out and Morgan would tell me which bag of feed to grab. I’d haul it over to the stone hedge where sheep, cows or horses were waiting. Morgan would get the fence and he’d distribute the food for the animals. By the end, I was helping pour out the food and could figure out the gates J At this farm, they have over 250 acres of land on the farm here, approximately 300 breeding sheep, 9 pregnant mares (25 horses in all) and 40 beef cows. They also have about 30 acres to produce grain for feed. And In the next few months, the place will be brimming with baby animals. On our way back out, I had a second chance at the all-elusive gate. I was doing well, getting it closed all on my own, till I realized I was on the wrong side. I used one of my newly acquired Irish cuss words and clambered over the fence. As I climbed into the jeep, Morgan gave a chuckle and congratulated me on a good job. It was a great morning, and I had lots of fun. But my day had only just begun. Next, Morgan would take me to the hunt.
Now, when I think of a fox hunt, I think of Mary Poppins and the carousel. The image of an actual fox hunt is remarkably similar but much more fun. The Cahalan family used to be very involved with the hunts and Morgan had his time when he hunted with every hunt. From what I can tell, Jessica and Morgan are still involved with the organization of the hunts and we had a great time as spectators. What we did Saturday was similar to a cross country spectator does, except in the jeep. We started off in Terryglass, a nearby village, where the riders gathered for the hunt around noon. But first, we stopped at the cemetery where my relatives are buried. The stone had been erected by a closer relative, who was listed as being from Waukon Junction U.S.A. I got a picture with the newly refurbished gravestone and took a moment to appreciate the fact that I’m here. It’s sometimes easy to forget how incredible it is that I’m in Ireland, chatting with distant cousins.
After that, we began our drives all over the area. First we went to retrieve the Huntsman, names Dennis, and his hounds. They were riding up the road on their way to Terryglass, their truck having broken down further up the road. It was quite the sight; 25 hounds milling around 2 horses, mounted by a man in a red jacket and a woman in a black jacket. They were dressed very smartly and riding straight down the road, keeping the hounds in a pack. We returned to town and as we waited for everyone to gather, we went to the pub for a quick drink. Morgan ordered a whiskey and asked what I wanted; suggesting port, and I said, “I’ve never tried it” so that’s what I got. I still don’t really know what port is, but it was a small strong drink that tasted like thick wine- actually not too bad. I didn’t have time to finish it, since we were there for about five minutes, but now I can say I’ve had port. When Dennis and his entourage arrived, everyone rallied pretty quickly and the hunt began.
All in all, there were about 25 riders and 12 and a half couples, which means there were 25 hounds. The riders were all smartly dressed, on beautiful horses, and the hounds were an active swarm with their tails awag. They started off by riding down the road and off to the field where they began. Basically the way it goes is that the hounds find the scent and the riders follow. We didn’t see much of the overall hunt, but by following along back roads and fields, we caught glimpses of them and heard about the issues. At one point, 2 and a half couples (5 hounds) chased 6 deer into neighboring fields and were lost for most of the hunt. Some of the spectators chased after them and eventually rounded them up.
We often stopped to get out and walk towards the action. Once, we encountered Paul, a lead hunter, who was trying to gather the hunt, as it had scattered a bit. It was an odd sight; people participating in an old tradition and using cell phones left and right to keep organized. Anyway, Paul needed to go off for something and I was standing there with Morgan. He handed me the reigns of his horse and asked me to hold him for a moment. Before I could answer at all, Paul had walked off. Well, the horse was beautiful and well behaved for the first 30 seconds. Then he started to get feisty. He wanted to move about and I would rather have stayed put, so we ended up turning in circles. Once I felt ridiculous enough doing that, I decided walking wouldn’t be too bad. After awhile, a woman I’d been talking to before took pity on me and took over with the horse. Probably a good idea too, since no doubt I had the least experience with horses as anyone in the area. Our last foray into the hunt was when the man who went to look for the missing hounds got stuck in a field. Apparently “only Jimmy can get a 4 wheel drive stuck in a field” but he was right stuck. With the help of 5 people pushing though, we got the truck out and headed back to meet up with the group.
By the time we rejoined the group, Morgan’s daughter Jessica had joined. We stopped to meet her and I switched cars to run some errands with her. We headed over to her brother Tom’s house to meet his wife Aisling and newborn daughter, Clodagh. Jessica, Aisling, and I had a nice conversation while enjoying the company of the bright eyed 7 week old. It was a nice couple of hours, getting to know Jessica and meeting some more family. Later that night, Mary, Morgan, Jessica and I went back to Terryglass and The Derg Inn for dinner. We all had a starter, main course, and dessert and I was stuffed to the brim with yummy goodness. I finished the night as I had the last; watching the news with Morgan, interspersed with bits of conversation, ranging from education to farm subsidies. What a day J
This morning, after breakfast, Morgan brought me to mass in a nearby village. It was the first church I had been in that was built in the 20th century, yet it was still as cold as all those huge stone churches. This was my first experience with a lack of music during mass at Irish masses. Apparently, this is somewhat normal, which makes me very sad. Music is my favorite part of mass and one of the best forms of prayer that I know of. So although I’m glad I got to mass, it was missing some of the meaning that I have come to love. After mass, we had some downtime that I used to go online and read a bit before we had lunch. By this point, it was just Mary, Morgan and I and we had lamb, which I had never had before. It was quite good, just as everything in that kitchen had been. After lunch, we snapped a few photos with Tom (the rest of the family had escaped before I realized I hadn’t gotten any pictures of them) and they packed me a bag of food that will keep me well fed for awhile. Mary drove me to the bus station and we had another opportunity to get to know each other. I loved my talks with Mary, and hope to have a few more before I leave J With a quick hug, and a wave from the bus, my weekend with the Cahalans ended.
I’m so glad I plucked up the courage to visit! I was a bit apprehensive about going to spend the weekend with people I’d never met. But once I got comfortable with Mary and Morgan, I had a great time. I loved figuring out the family connections, with its random members who have connected over the years. I got to meet a lot of the Cahalans of all ages and everyone was so welcoming. My day with Morgan showed me a lot of things I’d never encountered before and gave me an opportunity to get to know him as I wouldn’t have in other circumstances. And Mary was a wonderful host, with loads of great stories to share. I’m definitely looking forward to returning with my family to introduce everyone J